Taking the blow one by one..This too shall pass!!!

We all know how uncertain the life is.Seems God doesn’t like the routine in our life if it goes on for a longer time in the same way as we get bored of daily routine,so he keeps changing it.But the change in the routine may be positive as well as negative.You never know which side of ZERO your life may drift the very next moment. Sometimes the change is gradual and you do get time to realize it and come to terms with it.Sometimes it all happens all of a sudden that you don’t even remember why at all you are here in first place.
MOVING TOWARDS MINUS INFINITY-

Everything is going fine and BUSINESS AS USUAL (BAU), when suddenly life changes.You may be just wondering how things have changed but we don’t need to have our eyes wide open to realize the turn.It is easy to understand but difficult to believe in it.It may be a failure in your examination, it may be a breakup , it may be a bad fight with your bestest buddies, it may be an annoying change of assignment at workplace,it may be trying desperately to get a new job but not being able to find it inspite of being good at your business, it may be a disturbing colleague,it may be the shattering of the dream of your life just cause of your own fault, or sacrificing your own dreams to fulfil other’s dreams -yes it is painful along with the happiness it gives,  it may be difference of opinions within your family, it may be your growing  health complications, it may be the difficulty faced by parents in dealing with their teenage children ,it may be the loneliness in a new city with crazy roomates, loss of a loved one..blah blah blah..This world surely has millions and billions of reasons  to point your world towards the left of ZERO.
The trigger may simply be one of the reasons or a few of them or all of them at once.

Yes, your life does suck at such times.You just want to be left alone even though you may be feeing lonely and might need someone to support you.You feel that there are more foes than ever in your life.Broken and shaken you do tend to have a low self esteem, loose all the confidence you once took pride in.You tend to start failing in things you once had mastered.You tend to move away from the places you just died to be in and the people you loved to be with.You have milllions of thoughts bundled with varied emotions crossing your mind per minute .Sometimes you do speak to someone about it and sometimes you prefer the silence and try to deal with the struggle within.You start cursing your stars and just find reasons to justify the events in front of you. More tears roll down your eyes than the words spoken by mouth.But you can’t explain the feeling to the world or you prefer not to.
What does one do in such a trying situation.It is easy for people to say “just change your job/city and everything would be fine”, “common forget that person,he/she was just a bad chapter in your life”, “Don’t worry if you didn’t get it there must be some thing better for you”,”Get married to a good boy/girl and everything would get set for once and for all”,” MOVE ON” etc etc.So are these people just saying such things for the sake of it or is there any truth in their words.Actually they are right in some sense or the other.Just that we do not understand these words and take them for words of sympathy which is the last thing we need at that time.

What do we do then?The most important, hence difficult thing to do is ACCEPT what has happened-“Yes it has happened to me”.We would definitely find reasons and compare our lives with our peers and colleagues for the injustice in our life.Yes life is unfair,but that is the way how it is supposed to be .Isn’t it?How else would you mature and have a different experience than others on this planet.Once we start accepting then only we can slightly take control of the situation.We need to understand that the time is gonna be really tough but having been through the toughest phases,no more bad can happen so the only way to go is towards POSITIVE INFINITY.It is difficult to stay positive but not impossible in such times.Instead of trying to deal it all by ourself it is great to have a set of friends or family members whom you can talk to without the fear of being judged.They will surely give you much needed support.If you feel “why me” then just google out your problem and see the number of search results.The people undergoing the same issues are even more than you thought.It is because we never come out of our little world consisting of friends who are getting married to their lovers,cousins who  stand toppers throughout their classes,good looking friends and peers, cunning teammates and so on.The point is we tend to compare our lives with others believing they have it easy.It is wrong to compare our lives with others just to have that victimized feeling.This is not the time to compare within our small little world.Althrough our lives we have altered our decisions in accordance with what our little world thinks.Havn’t we?Life has hit you the hardest and hence the focus has to be only ‘YOU’.It is time to challenge and compete with yourself in the ways of handling each emotion and standing each storm strongly.You need to pull in all the strength you can and push yourself to do things that you may have never done as they were out of your comfort zone or you never tried.When we do such things successfully it helps in regaining the lost confidence and being the ORIGINAL YOU.As you start feeling better,this is the time to forgive people who did not care for you and your emotions and just take it as a lesson not to do the same to anyone.Don’t keep hard feelings for anyone or anything as it may kill you from inside.It may not be as simple as it sounds but the essence is to try your best in recovering and doing things that you feel will help you.Nobody else knows what your best is better than you.Just keep on bettering yourself and pat yourself for each small or big achievement.An achievemnt is not what the world thinks is an achivement.It may be as simple as getting up on time when you have been not feeling like getting out of bed whole day.It is at such times that we realize our true potential.It is not the time to prove it to SOMEBODY ELSE.It is time to prove it to yourself what your inner strength is and how well you can come out of such tumultuous times.As they say “TIME IS THE BIGGEST HEALER”.Don’t just wait for time to pass but also make it a great learning experience which would make it pass faster and smoother than you ever imagined.Definitely the crying may not stop but make sure you are working on improving things yourself as well instead of waiting for stars to change their positions for they surely will but at your direction.Try to rebuild the bits and pieces of your life and take pride in completing that.
The joy of such small victories is greater than the bigger ones because you fought with yourself and bettered yourself.It is a great feeling to overcome a bad phase an slowly and steadily walking a normal pace of life.Whenever you feel weak just recall your winning moments and hold on to the courage you have. Things will not change overnight but you do realize the changes they make inside you.At the end you will be a better person and a confident personality.Remember”This too shall pass”

HAPPY HEALING!!!